As consumers of services, we are much more likely to change providers then we ever used to. This also works for changing your mediator as it is important to have the right one for you and your partner and trust in the mediation process.
Commonly, the mortgage and the bank account that people obtained in their twenties remained the same for life. However, it is now not unheard of for people to change their mortgage provider several times during the lifetime of their mortgage.
It is also not uncommon for people to change solicitor when resolving matters arising out of their relationship breakdown especially if there is a breakdown in confidence and the essential trust element of the relationship is lost.
However, it is extremely rare for people to change mediator.
If people feel that they are not being understood or listened to or the mediator is imposing their view and outlook on the matter, people seem to blame the process rather than the individual. They report to their solicitors that mediation is not for them and go down the court and lawyer led approach instead.
However, this is surprising because it is such a big decision to walk away from mediation and into a process that exerts a much higher emotional and financial cost. Mediators are like doctors, dentists, solicitors, Judges and all those involved in a professional relationship. If one mediator does not suit you and/or your partner, then another might be wholly suitable and make progress where it was not possible before.
In mediation week, we would urge people not to give up on mediation as a process but to take some time to select a mediator and maybe talk to a few different people, before selecting one and, if it does not work out, look at having future discussions with a different mediator with the appropriate skill set and approach for your family.
How Blake Morgan can help
Christine Plews is writing a series of blogs for Family Mediation Week, which is 18-22 January 2021, and they will be published on Monday through to Friday. The aim of the week is to raise awareness of mediation and how it can help separating families manage their issues collaboratively and productively.
Christine is a vastly experienced family lawyer with over 30 years’ experience in this area. She is highly ranked and recommended in legal directories. Christine was a partner at Blake Morgan LLP until 2019 when she became a Consultant specialising in mediation.
Please do get in touch to find out more about family mediation.
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